Hi, we are Justin and Lisa. Thank you for taking the time to learn about us.
We met nine years ago through mutual friends. We were both immediately attracted to one another but were afraid to make any moves. So we started off as friends...
One day while driving down the interstate to another town, Lisa got a phone call from Justin. He was only an hour away from her and asked if she wanted to hang out. It was an hour in the other direction, but she just could not pass up the opportunity; Lisa knew they were just meant to be together! She exited the highway and made a U-turn to head in Justin's direction.
We had the most amazing time together that weekend---even dancing in the rain---and as they say, " the rest is history...." Justin proposed in Peru, and we were married a year later, in 2015. That U-turn was the best detour Lisa had ever taken!
Four years into marriage, we were blessed to have our son, Carter. We loved how our family had grown and were hopeful for a second child, especially since Carter had asked to be a big brother. After trying for a few years and going through infertility treatments, we learned from our doctors that it was extremely unlikely we would ever conceive again. Lisa is adopted, and we just knew in our hearts then that we were meant to adopt.
Expectant mothers who choose to make an adoption plan may qualify for some level of financial assistance during their pregnancy. However, each person's situation and specific needs are different. Your adoption social worker can help you determine what level of assistance you qualify for and deserve. Many expectant mothers qualify for financial assistance to cover basic pregnancy and living expenses, including but not limited to - transportation reimbursement, utility assistance for phone, water, and electricity/gas, maternity clothing and supplements, etc.
It won't cost you anything. If you choose to place your baby for adoption, all of your medical and legal fees will be covered and you may be eligible for financial assistance with other pregnancy-related expenses.
Yes. Even if you don’t know the identity of the birth father, you can still choose to make an adoption plan. However, every adoption situation is different. The adoption social worker you’re assigned to will get to know you and your story first, and then guide you through the process accordingly.
You can make an adoption plan at any point in your pregnancy, even after the baby has been born. But, it's important to start the process as early in your pregnancy as possible. Connecting with those resources will allow you to gain access to important medical services, including prenatal care, to help ensure a healthy pregnancy.
One aspect of your adoption plan is the "Hospital Plan" an outline of how you'd like your hospital stay and delivery to go. You can craft this on your own or with the help of your adoption social worker. But everything is up to you. You’ll be able to choose who comes to the hospital with you, who is in the room with you during delivery, and how much time you’d like to spend with the baby before signing the final papers.
As part of your adoption plan, you'll determine whether or not you’d like to have an open or closed adoption or something in between. Open adoptions may include phone calls, messaging (via social media, email, or text), and/or periodic visits each year. Closed adoptions may include no contact at all or annual updates provided to the birth parent(s) by the adoptive family. Each post-adoption relationship is different and can vary based on what an expectant mother chooses in her adoption plan.
First experience "blogging". Justin and I have been hoping for an adoption placement for about 6 months now. We continue to pray we get placement soon and remain positive. Since we began this journey I have decided to retire from the Air Force, Justin has gone on his, hopefully last, deployment, and Carter is signed up for T-ball. He will be such a sweet little boy and will be an amazing big brother.
One thing I am so grateful for is my local family and friends. Yes deployments can be hard, but the kindness and support from these wonderful people always keep me full of love. I'm grateful to have them in my life.